I understand that people who have experienced harm often don't want to re-traumatize themselves by talking about it, but as a response to people publicly bringing up these kinds of experiences with Thadeaus, I have reached out in multiple ways for almost a decade and no one has been willing to speak to me about the issues they have experienced directly with him.
I have had a long meeting (back in 2011 or 2012) with a representative of support New York about their activities concerning Thadeaus (they still run a legacy website but do not do active work anymore). A Support New York member did speak to me on behalf of Thadeaus’s ex-partner, who is also a Support New York organizer / representative.
In Our Hearts has tried to do our best to support Thadeaus taking steps towards accountability without any direct information from those he may have harmed.
He has been open to talking about this stuff with me and learning from it. People who consider themselves part of In Our Hearts are dedicated to each other too, and do want to help out our friend to learn from the past and grow beyond it. We’ve had a series of accountability meetings with him in the past and he often brings up this topic with us for support.
Nobody is perfect, not even a successful organizer. Like all humans, Thadeaus is not *always* as responsive to these matters as would be ideal, especially on-demand in a public forum. Sometimes it is disappointing; but that's part of the ups and downs of long-term friendship. Despite this, Thadeaus has been able to be open with his friends and collective members about our questions and concerns about his past and present relationships, and continues to be reflective with us about these topics. We don’t feel like we are harming the community or harboring a perpetrator of abuse by letting him work on our projects. Indeed, our projects are better because he is a part of our work.